Finally, a moment.
Long enough to sit down and work out some stuff... including the results of the Poll I posted last week.
I'm sure you're all on the edge of your seats, aren't you?
Just what do mummies do in their spare time?
Is there actually any such thing as spare time for mummies?
How many of us think we are creative?
And do we actually front up and request time for ourselves...?
All this will soon be revealed.
But first, a big thank you to all the busy mummies who took the time to write to me with your thoughts. Lovely to hear from some "blog lurkers" (psssst! that's we bloggers call those beloved people who read but don't comment)!
I promised a prize didn't I? A copy of the Parenting Magazine awarded to two entries, by way of a draw.
Just a moment ago I wrote your names down on scraps of paper I ripped from a notebook. I put them in my pretty teapot and jiggled it up and down to mix them all up.
Then I closed my eyes, poked my hand in (twice) and drew out a couple of winners:
Ange Wilson from Dunedin and Stephanie Whitmore from New Plymouth!
Wahoo, you girls will receive a copy of the next... er, hang on a second.
Oh blast. I've stuffed up. Seems that the article I wrote containing (some) of your quotes is intended for the June issue of the magazine, not the March one. Darn it.
Somehow the next issue of the magazine will be a Simone-free issue. *sniff*
I know how upset and disappointed you will all be. But don't worry, I'll be back in the mag in June,
with the "Me Time" article. So sadly, I will have to wait until then to send your magazines, girls.
Think you can wait?
I'm really really sorry. How embarrassing.
Right. So now that we have that little bit of news out of the way, let's get to the results...
"Me Time" Poll Results
- · Yes I do it regularly: 50%
- · No I feel like I can’t: 31%
- · No I never think to: 19%
It would seem that fully half of us don't speak up and request time for ourselves. Either we don't think to ask, or we don't feel we can. Where do you fall on this one? I admit I don't think to very often, whereas my hubby is great at scheduling in things (like sport) that will energise him and give him an outlet.
- · 7+ hours: 6%
- · 5-7 hours: 37%
- · 3-5 hours: 19%
- · Less than three hours: 25%
- · Big Fat Zero: 13%
- · Yes: 40%
- · No: 60%
- · Coffee with friends: 36.67%
- · Curl Up with a book: 20%
- · Get creative: 16.67%
- · Exercise: 15%
- · Blogging: 5%
- · Get out into nature: 1.67%
- · Watch TV/Movies: 1.67%
- · Other: 3.33%
Amanda, mum of three, West Auckland: I get a lot more “me-time” now that I have 2 at school and one in kindy 3 days a week. But when I had 3 under age 4 it was a lot different and it was overwhelming, like being on a treadmill that just won’t stop! It was a very exhausting stage of my life, I was either pregnant or had a new baby for several years. “Me-time” is really important for a mum’s mental health. The 20 free hours childcare has certainly made it more affordable to have more “me-time”.
Stephanie, mum of four, New Plymouth: When I have spare time the first thing I do is clean. Not that I really want to mind you, but having a clean(ish) house gives me a clear mind and then I can get down to the real business of ‘me time’. Like you I love to write. Its sad that being a penpal isn’t trendy anymore and blogging my life kind of freaks me out. I can’t imagine that I would be half as interesting as you! So, instead I write down everything from my bible study to whatever is happening in my life and that of the kids in a number of different journals. I also scrapbook (which is more or less an arty version of a chronicle) and make cards. And I have to read. It is my ‘bliss’ and saves my sanity. And, honestly, life isn’t complete without a book in hand, and failing that a pretty good blog site does the job just fine! LOL. I adore being on my own, enjoying the peace and quiet too. We have an awesome paddock that has heaps of huge old trees and stumps in it. Sitting there surrounded by nothing but nature restores the soul I think. Sometimes it is doing nothing but stopping the world and hopping off for a while that makes for the best use of ‘me time’.
So there you have it... "Me time" in a nutshell. Spending time taking care of YOU - your children's mother. How do you do it? Do you get much time? What refreshes and replenishes you? We'd love to hear from you...