22 April 2010
"I'm not creative like you...!"
How many times have I heard that statement from other women? Whenever I hear it, something niggles at me. It makes me feel sad inside.
I wanted to write this post to get something off my chest. Here it comes:
We are all creative. We are Women. Mothers.
Creativity is in our very bones.
There, I said it.
Aha! I heard you!
YOU... the one thinking to yourself, "Nope, not me. You're wrong about that..."
You're the one I'm writing this for.
Girl, you were creative from birth. The seeds of life were already there inside you, just waiting for the right time. Your whole person was designed to carry and nurture life. OK, some of our girly bits don't always work how they should, but still! You're a mother at heart. And mothers are creative in their very essence.
We have a very narrow view of what creativity is. I paint so I'm creative. She sews, so she's creative. He's an amazing musician: creative.
But what about the gardeners (those pullers of weeds and coaxers of seeds)... creative, yes? The cooks, the bakers, the nutritious meal-makers? Creative.
The photo-takers, the hair-up-doers, the outfit queens? Creative. The op-shop hunters, the curio collectors, the bloggy wordsmiths? Creative.
What about the ones who love taking walks on a beach at sunset? Whose hearts lift when great music plays? Who cry at a great story well told? Those who appreciate beauty... creative.
Creativity comes in so many forms.
As wise King Solomon once said: There is nothing new under the sun. Most creativity starts with something borrowed - an idea, a style, a thought. We see something we like that someone else has done and we think, I like that! I could do that!
We take it, use it and make it our own. We give it our own slant and it becomes new, fresh and original.
Years ago I was inspired by my wonderful friend Rebecca. Her blog was full of ideas for wonderful home-made birthday parties, family fun and creative ways to make life with kids easier and more enjoyable.
I loved the way she did things, the way she parented. I thought to myself, I like that! I've borrowed her inspirations, I've used her ideas, modified them, bounced off them and made them my own.
Was that cheating?? Nope. That's how it's meant to work. We inspire and egg each other on. That's what's so great about blogging!
We are all artists, girls. Our canvases are our children, our homes, our gardens, our relationships, our lives.
We express our creativity through the obvious: art, craft, music, cooking, decorating, style...
...and the less obvious: celebrating, encouraging, enjoying, giving, nurturing and appreciating the beauty we see around us.
Still think you're not creative? You just need to figure out where your creativity lies.
Try some new things. Who cares if your people look like stick figures: have a go at painting; splash some colour around (then frame it). Hang your kids art on your walls, who cares if your home doesn't look like a magazine (fill it with what you love). Plant a herb garden in unusual containers; put music on loud and dance with your kids...
What inspires you? DIY programmes on TV? Your best friend's quirky fashion sense? Do you feel at peace with your hands in the soil? Does music soothe your stressed-out soul?
List down the things you love and realise that your creativity is not missing, it's just unrecognised.
Borrow the inspirations of others and make them your own, in your own way.
Practise makes perfect. Start somewhere.
And don't let me hear you say "I'm not creative" ever again, OK?!